Modern Romance: An Investigation

Modern Romance An Investigation are Ebook So this isn t really a humorous book about Aziz Ansari s dating experiences it s more like a book about dating in the modern world written by the v

Modern Romance: An Investigation are Ebook So, this isn't really a humorous book about Aziz Ansari's dating experiences, it's more like a book about dating in the modern world, written by the very humorous Aziz Ansari.I was introduced to Aziz's stand-up by my oldest son, and I've been hooked on him ever since. He's hilarious, and if you haven't seen him perform you're missing out. Which makes me wish I'd listened to this as an audiobook...Turns out, Aziz and his partner, Eric Klinenberg, did quite a bit of research for this book. Now, is it the best book out there on this subject? The most detailed investigation with the most clinical data?Probably not.But there was waaay more research-y stuff in here than I was expecting from a book written by a stand-up comedian & actor. Between the two of them, they did focus groups, had pie charts, and looked at how people dated in a few different cultures. Not a ton, but a few!Japan (Tokyo, in particular) was interesting! I'd heard about their lack of interest in sex, but I didn't realize it was now such a big deal that the government was stepping in to help out. You'd think Tokyo would be a hopping place for singles, but evidently...not so much.Even so, it sounds like a fabulous place to visit! They looked at Paris to see what a more laid-back culture thought about monogamy, and the results were...less surprising. More Parisians were cool with (a bit of) cheating than other countries.That's Hot!Sorry, wrong Paris.They also looked at Buenos Aries, which is (supposedly) a more aggressive city for dating. As in, the guys are aggressive and take catcalling to a whole new level. Or maybe it's a game both genders play in that culture?Either way, catcalling is gross, disrespectful, and not the way to meet your soul mate. <--just my opinion.Now, if you've ever seen Ansari's stand-up, you've probably seen him get someone out of the audience and scroll through their texts. This is like Aziz scrolling through thousands of personal texts to see what people are saying to each other. What's dating like for singles when there are so many ways to communicate? When everything is instantaneous? When you can swipe a face to connect, or send out mass generic messages on a dating site?How do you connect without being a needy dork or a creeper? What is the correct etiquette?Can you break up via text? Or ask someone to the prom in an IM?Are those, in fact, preferred methods of communications?!Oh my God, I'm so old!Is love in the digital age easier or harder? Are singles making rookie mistakes that knock them out of them out of the game, or is the game itself a tad more full of potential landmines than it was when I was single?I'm looking at you, dick pics!As Aziz points out, these stupid blunders just couldn't have happened 20 years ago.The point he makes is that the landscape for dating has changed...again. And I'm sure it will continue to morph and alter into something unrecognizable in another 20 years. That's not necessarily a bad thing, at all. In fact, there are upsides (searching for someone you connect with on a deep level, instead of settling) and downsides (expecting too much from one person, and not being satisfied) when it comes to Modern Romance.Admittedly, I had no real reason to want to read a book about dating. I'm not looking for love because I already had my very Unmodern Romance.We met at work, and talked on landline phones for hours!I simply wanted to take a peek at how the other half lives. And it was pretty enlightening! No, I don't feel sorry for the singles out there today. I don't think it's any harder, but it's definitely different for them than it was for me. Every era has its own pitfalls, but in the end, I think we all want the same thing.. A hilarious, thoughtful, and in depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation s most popular and sharpest comedic voicesAt some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection This seemsA hilarious, thoughtful, and in depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation s most popular and sharpest comedic voicesAt some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection This seems standard now, but it s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago Single people today have romantic options than at any point in human history With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering So why are so many people frustrated Some of our problems are unique to our time Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods Combos My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan Who s Nathan Did he just send her a photo of his penis Should I check just to be sure But the transformation of our romantic lives can t be explained by technology alone In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty four Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages They enlisted the world s leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer The result is unlike any social science or humor book we ve seen before.In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.. A viral Book Modern Romance: An Investigation Find all of my reviews at: StarsModern Romance went on my TBR as soon as I heard rumors of its existence. We’re talking about waiting months for this damn thing (and also never being able to track down an ARC) . . . Quick confession – I never bothered reading the synopsis for this book. I saw Aziz Ansari had a “romance” book coming out and my brain immediately thought it would be something like “Tom Haverford’s Guide to Dating” . . . If I would have bothered reading the blurb, I would have realized that:“Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.”This book was seriously science-y. And not in a bad way either. It was an exploration of how finding a match has morphed from the 1950s to the present – but with an Ansari twist that brought the LOLz:“Aron published another study, title “Couples’ Shared Participation in Novel and Arousing Activities and Experienced Relationship Quality” (damn, dude, shorten the names or your studies!)”Modern Romance begins with Ansari admitting that he’s totally a girl. (HA! Just kidding. Bet that got some of you who have accused Mitchell and I of being women haters here on Goodreads all worked up.) Seriously though, Ansari’s introduction includes him picturing his future with a woman he made out with one night, questioning whether a text message came off too desperate or needy, wondering whether the lack of response to said text message is because of him or because some horrible accident befell his potential soulmate, etc. Basically, he proves in three pages that chicks and dudes are TOTALLY THE SAME when it comes to modern day relationships. Then there was a brief trip on the waybackmachine a lá When Harry Met Sally which included interviews of nursing home residents regarding how/when/where they met their spouse (there was also a lot of talk about how delicious donuts are in this segment. Mmmmmmm, donuts). I confirmed that I could easily be transplanted to the 1950s since I got married when I was a fetus instead of waiting until I was pushing 30 like modern-day women tend to do. *shrug*The book then fast-forwards through the ages to today and the land of terrifying technology . . . It covered everything from the mind games of not immediately responding to text messages in order to not appear desperate, to how modern romance works in countries other than ‘Murica, to online dating (I’m telling you, if it gets any easier than Tinder y’all single folks might as well just buy sex robots and save yourself the time and effort of leaving the house), to cyberstalking snooping on your significant other . . . and reminded readers that you might not always get a boner every time you touch your beloved’s hair, but that doesn’t mean you’re “settling.”If you’re looking for a laugh a second book of Ansari’s hits and misses when it comes to the romance game, this probably isn’t the choice for you. However, if you’re interested in a sociological study of how dating has evolved over time with some humor added in to the mix, this one’s a winner. And really – who can pass up getting to know a little more about Aziz Ansari’s outlook on love . . . Note: I am still holding out hope that Aziz will write a straight-up hilarious autobiography . . .^^^crosses fingers^^^^

About Author

  1. Aziz Ishmael Ansari is an American actor and comedian He starred as Tom Haverford on the NBC show Parks and Recreation.Ansari began his career performing standup comedy in New York City during the summer of 2000 while attending New York University In 2007, he created and starred in the critically acclaimed MTV sketch comedy show Human Giant, which ran for two seasons This led to acting roles in feature films, including Funny People, I Love You, Man, Observe and Report, and 30 Minutes or Less.In addition to his acting work, Ansari has continued to work as a standup comedian He released his debut CD DVD, entitled Intimate Moments for a Sensual Evening, in January 2010 on Comedy Central Records, and still tours nationally between acting commitments In 2010 and 2011, he performed his Dangerously Delicious tour This tour was self released for download on his website in March 2012 and debuted on Comedy Central in May 2012 He completed his third major tour of new material, Buried Alive, in the summer of 2013 His fourth major comedy special, Live at Madison Square Garden, was released on Netflix in 2015.His first book, Modern Romance An Investigation, was released in June 2015.


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  1. So, this isn t really a humorous book about Aziz Ansari s dating experiences, it s like a book about dating in the modern world, written by the very humorous Aziz Ansari.I was introduced to Aziz s stand up by my oldest son, and I ve been hooked on him ever since He s hilarious, and if you haven t seen him perform you re missing out Which makes me wish I d listened to this as an audiobookTurns out, Aziz and his partner, Eric Klinenberg, did quite a bit of research for this book Now, is it the be [...]

  2. Find all of my reviews at 52bookminimum 3.5 StarsModern Romance went on my TBR as soon as I heard rumors of its existence We re talking about waiting months for this damn thing and also never being able to track down an ARC Quick confession I never bothered reading the synopsis for this book I saw Aziz Ansari had a romance book coming out and my brain immediately thought it would be something like Tom Haverford s Guide to Dating If I would have bothered reading the blurb, I would have realized [...]

  3. I got married in 1989 In India in those days, love marriages were still exceptions rather than the norm when you had to look at the religion, caste, family background, and age of a possible partner who was to share your life divorces were absolute stigma before hitching up, falling in love was like solving a mathematical equation with too many constraints For a nerdy, uncouth, shy and bookish youngster who got tongue tied in presence of a halfway pretty girl, this was even of a nightmare.Fortun [...]

  4. As a single woman I feel like Aziz Ansari knows my pain Yes I am single by choice not my choice, but still a choice , He knows how unpleasant it is to stare impotently at a screen waiting for a message that never arrives we all have Tanya on our phones The hours slouched by I m so stupid he writes I should have typed Hey with two y s, not just one Later Did Tanya s phone fall into a river trash compactor volcano Did Tanya fall into a river trash compactor volcano Oh no, Tanya has died the author [...]

  5. I am a satisfied single.I did not coin that term, I did hear it from somewhere, but I don t remember who said it Sorry person who said it Anywaywhat this means to me is that I m fine with being on my own It s easy Would I like to meet the love of my life or the man of my dreams my soul mate if you will Sure, I d be alright with that, in fact it would be great But I m not holding my breath.Am I willing to spend hours and hours poring over profiles, reading messages from guys that put little to no [...]

  6. At the beginning of the audiobook, Aziz joked with us listeners , about being Lazy People o lazy to sit down and read a book He not only had to write the book, but now he had to read it us us too Aziz is entertaining and hilarious no questions about it Love the guy By the end of my lazy listening I came to the conclusion that Aziz brought playfulness and lightness to the game called Modern Dating However everyone could benefit listening to this audio tape if you plan to continue living in 2016 a [...]

  7. Aziz Ansari is a funny guy I ve enjoyed his work as an actor and a comedian, so I shouldn t have been surprised when I really liked his book But I was surprised, especially when I learned that he had teamed up with a sociologist and did actual research on modern romance Aziz was interested in how technology has changed dating culture, and he opens the book with a funny story about a girl, Tanya, who didn t text him back after he had asked her out He realizes that texting and social media and dat [...]

  8. i posted, i posted, i posted plz be proud of me link here emmareadstoomuch.wordpress Disclaimer I have the biggest crush on Aziz Ansari Can anyone blame me He s like a humor magician Parks Rec, flawless standup specials, MASTER OF NONE, and this book What a track record.Anyway I could never claim to be unbiased on this subject It s now clear that what I thought was a post season 2 Master of None hangover is justrt of me now I am destined for an existence of crushin on Aziz.Okay So now that you k [...]

  9. Startlingly inessential.Early on, Ansari makes a somewhat baffling statement that he felt compelled to write this book because there wasn t any other literature on modern dating culture a topic explored ad nauseum in newspaper thinkpieces, podcasts, and other disposable pop science bestsellers many of which he goes on to reference throughout the book He also mentions that he rejected the idea of writing a strictly humorous book because he feels like his stand up is a comfortable medium for his [...]

  10. Bravo to comic and actor Aziz Ansari for not writing just another memoir by someone who s sorta famous but hasn t lived long enough to really warrant one I ve read a number of them good Bossypants okay Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me abandoned sorry, Lena Dunham.Modern Romance is about dating in the digital age Getting to know people has evolved significantly even over the past few years Dating sites, swipe apps like Tinder and sexting are a far cry from how people used to meet you know, thro [...]

  11. I came into this not expecting much, but this was fascinating I picked it up without reading the description, so I was pleasantly surprised to find the majority of this is based on psych studies If you re interested in the psychology behind modern dating, I highly recommend Definitley listen to this as an audiobook.It also left me depressed about being single, but heigh ho

  12. In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world The world is available to us, but that may be the problem Fun fact I actually started 2017 with this read, but at the time it didn t feel relevant enough for me to get the most out of it, so I put the book down Fast forward to November, when I discovered the wonder that is the Hidden Brain podcast, where it featured an episode with Aziz Ansari sharin [...]

  13. Modern Romance straddles the line of being funny and serious It doesn t commit get the pun one way or the other, and so, falls flat on both fronts This is especially unsatisfying as I love Aziz and his work Perhaps it s with this high expectation and skewed notion of what this book could have been that made it all the disheartening The quicker you accept the fact that Modern Romance isn t what you wished it was, the easier you ll find yourself enjoying it a little .It isn t a laugh out loud hum [...]

  14. The knowledge offered in this book is pretty common and obvious, nothing you haven t read online heard on a podcast But some anecdotes, especially about dating in other countries cultures are funny and interesting.I am glad I listened to an audio narrated by Ansari himself I can t imagine reading the book on my own, to be honest.

  15. 3.5 stars, but I rounded up, just because Aziz is hilarious.This was really a very interesting read Obviously well researched and very insightful It was funny, for me, reading about the way romance was done before the technology we have today and in modern times, because I went through my teens in a gap time I guess I grew up in the 90 s and early 00 s, so I didn t have my own cell phone until I was closer to an adult and even these days, I m not big into social media GR is about it for my socia [...]

  16. Ok, so I picked this up thinking this was going to be a Aziz Ansari version of a Steve Harvey book You know the kind with advice like Ladies, don t call him back right away kind of thing This is not that kind of book Ansari worked with a sociologist to look at love in the modern age He covers everything from texting to sexting to Tinder and how love romance has changed due to technology I really like that the book took a academic approach Because it s Aziz, it s also still funny If you ve seen [...]

  17. This book is insightful than I first anticipated It is a funny book indeed, but the focus group discussions and other researches that discussed in this book are good for my own thinking and introspection.

  18. I ve been so behind on my reviewing these days, but I had so much fun with this one I wanted to make sure I didn t let it fall through the dark cracks into the swirling abyss where my non reviewed books go I m a huge fan of Ansari I think he s cute as a button and funny as goddamn hell I watched him in Parks Rec, his most recent Netflix original Master of None which I highly recommend , and thoroughly enjoy his stand up concerts He s not at the same level as Louis CK or Patton Oswalt, but he s a [...]

  19. Nenia ✨ Queen of Literary Trash, Protector of Out-of-Print Gems, Khaleesi of Bodice Rippers, Mother of Smut, the Unrepentant, Breaker of Convention ✨ Campbell

    Instagram Twitter Facebook PinterestThere are a lot of books that I am interested in reading but don t really get around to unless the book is selected by a book club or for a buddy read This is because sites like and have made the whole prospect of choosing a book so stressful Up and coming books, out of print books, esoteric books from small presses there are so many options Before , I would select books based on the cover, the synopsis on the back cover, and whether I recognized the author us [...]

  20. One firm takeaway from all our interviews with women is that most dudes out there are straight up bozos.My introduction to modern romance was abrupt and unexpected I was back in New York for the holidays, drinking with a few friends, sipping and gulping the wonderful IPAs that I miss when I m here in Spain Sometime deep into the night, one of my friends, who is a gay man this is relevant to the story you should also know that I m a straight guy asked if anyone wanted to go on his Tinder I do I s [...]

  21. O Amor nos Tempos Modernos uma obra liter ria escrita por Aziz Ansari n 1983 , um actor e comediante, que come ou a sua carreira em stand up comedy em Nova Iorque, em parceira com Eric Klinenberg n 1970 , um investigador e professor de Sociologia na Universidade de Nova Iorque Convidar algu m para sair uma tarefa simples que muitas vezes se transforma numa aterradora inc gnita povoada de medo, d vidas e ansiedade Est pejada de decis es dif ceis Como que fa o o convite Pessoalmente Por telefone S [...]

  22. Aziz has written a book on romance and dating in the 21st Century and he wants us all to take him seriously I know what you re thinking, and so did Aziz, Another comedian book, another fluffed out 200 page book with anecdotes that probably didn t happen This is not that type of book at all.Aziz was interested in how dating works these days and decided to team up with a proper social scientist to do some research And it seems like he was heavily invested in it all The new research that Aziz and E [...]

  23. Omg what fucking yawnfest I m so pissed at how misleading the book description is In it this book is called hilarious Can someone point me to the hilarious part in the book All it got out of me was couple of giggles and a snort DNF at 50%.I just want to say that I m fan of Ansari, as an actor and a comedian, but this book felt like a lecture, with a couple of giggle worthy comments thrown in The book is not badly written, at all Aziz uses a lot research and material from interviews to back his [...]

  24. Os Novos M nages TroisNos tempos que correm, os relacionamentos s o tri ngulos amorosos , em que o v rtice um objecto inanimado que varia de acordo com as prefer ncias Smartphone, Tablet , Laptop ele est l sempre, fiel e pronto a servir Apitando, teclando, tocando, falando, vibrando ele o Cupido e o Escravo imprescind vel das rela es amorosas atuais.Tem Vantagens Bastantes Desvantagens Algumas Numa abordagem plena de humor, Aziz Ansari mostra nos como as novas tecnologias revolucionaram os relac [...]

  25. Are you single Are you in a relationship Do you use a cellphone Have you ever had a conversation with someone older or younger than you about technology ruining not ruining society Do you ever wonder why people don t text you back within moments of you texting them despite the fact that you can see that they ve read the text If any of this applies to you, then you need to do yourself a favour and dig into Aziz Ansari s book This gorgeously bound book beautifully dodges all the pitfalls of a nonf [...]

  26. Actual rating 4.5 stars Well I don t know what I was thinking when I picked this audio book up, but Modern Romance wasn t it I really like this It was super interesting and I feel like I learned a lot about the history of romance and how it s changed with technology Being a person who was been off the market since 2006, a lot of this stuff was news to me, lol I really enjoyed how Aziz talked to people of all ages and all around the world This is not your typical comedian memoir book and that is [...]

  27. There s a reason why aptly put this book in a non fiction category in this year Choice Awards, while it could ve easily been in the humor section The thing is, much like his brilliant new series Master of None, the comedy s there, but not as a central point Instead, it was being used as an accessory for Aziz to make an interesting topic become engaging.If there s one downside is that the book can be repetitive at times He often wrote something that was pretty much in lieu with what he already p [...]

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